Harmony's birthday is Friday, so that's why the topic of surprise was on my mind. This post applies well to guys in relationships but it's true outside of that context as well.
Misconception: Women like surprises.
Okay, so this one's a little more fluid, but I think it works as a general rule. It's not that they don't enjoy being surprised (sometimes), but they would rather know what's going on. Most people want to know what's in that brightly wrapped box on their birthday or Christmas, but many guys will actually make an effort not to reveal the present before its time. Many women will actually peek at their present. After Journey has seen her present or been told what it is, her favorite thing to say is that after unwrapping it she'll act surprised and then say "Mom! You shouldn't have."
However, more often women don't like being surprised by company. Many guys won't mind if someone pops in uninvited, even if their place looks like a dump truck unloaded in the middle of the house. Compare this to some women who detest being surprised by company even if their place is spotless.
Yes, I know there are women who are thrilled by surprises. But generally, and moreso when it involves sudden guests, they do not want to be surprised.
You are SO right about being surprised by company!
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