It's been a while, so to keep the burner hot I'll try to post something more controversial.
Misconception: Your true self is out there and you have to go experience many different things so that you can "find yourself".
It might be the obvious answer, but part of the definition of the self is that it's internal. I understand the "you are out there" imagery is not literal, but adhering to the definition of self actually can illuminate us.
I think what many people mean by "find yourself" is that through your diverse experiences you will find your identity by comparing yourself with your discoveries. However, this doesn't always make sense with a view of the self as internal. If you are "in here" rather than "out there", searching and experiencing may actually distract you from discovering the true self. Focusing on the adventure may deter you from focusing on the meaning of the adventure. After all, it's the inward reflection after the outward experience that is supposed to help you find yourself. The inward reflection is the important part, the outward experience just a route. Too many times I see people for whom the "route" has become a severe distraction.
This is somewhat analogous to the pursuit of a Christian life. It's not an instantaneous conversion from sinner to saint, but an arduous road of constant growing and learning. However, all the time the Christian will find himself becoming more and more like Christ at his core. It's about encouraging the inner self to grow and mature rather than about what kinds of or how many experiences you have.
